“We each have many types of love relationships — parents, children, spouses, friends. And they’re not always with people; you may love an animal, or a place. Is there a single idea or definition that runs through all the varieties of “love”?“
For me, compassion.
No matter what relationship, what level or depth of love I feel, there is an underlying current of compassion.
Result: noun – sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others
Laymen: I care
I care if you hurt, physically emotionally, or spiritually. I care if something unjust is done to you. I care if something goes wrong. I care if you’re happy.
I want to be part of your story, and I want to know how things end. I want to know all of the crazy plot twists.
I’m invested in you.
I care about you.
I love you.
Result: noun – an intense feeling of deep affection.
No where in that definition does it talk about sex. It might be a bit of a pet peeve on my part, but relationships do not have to have sex to ‘be real’, or for the feelings to be love.
Love is not defined by sex.
The two can be connected, but one does not instantly connect, or entitle, you to the other.
Sex != Love
Love != Sex
!= is Python coding syntax for “does not equal”
And I find that my age group does not understand that.
Love is caring, and being there. Love is time and investment. Love is effort. Love is giving.
Love is something deeper, more real, than the surface of bare skin.
So I’m unashamed to say that I love a lot of people, and that I have a lot of love in my life. Because what that really means is that I care for a lot of people, and a lot of people care about me.